My research explores the lives of homosexual men aged 60 and older in Shanghai, China. Most of these men are married to women, and most entered the gay scene after China’s reform and opening-up period in the 1980s. Research focuses on queer sociality. The men I came to know pursue happiness and have fun in parks, public toilets, informal get-togethers, online chat groups, and sightseeing trips, thereby defying a popular myth that depicts them as sad, lonely and undesirable. I also examine the men’s talk about their spouses, and their interactions with queer friends and young gay men who migrate from the Chinese hinterland.